january 17th - Friendship
Now when he had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. Saul took him that day, and would not let him go home to his father's house anymore. Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul. And Jonathan took off the robe that was on him and gave it to David, with his armor, even to his sword and his bow and his belt. So David went out wherever Saul sent him, and behaved wisely. And Saul set him over the men of war, and he was accepted in the sight of all the people and also in the sight of Saul's servants. 1 Samuel 18:1-5 (NKJV)
Jesus was asked the question, “Who is my neighbor?” It is a question that exposes our typical human perspective, which is to put ourselves as the focal point of our relationships. Who is MY neighbor? Who are MY friends? Who is on MY side? Who loves ME? “OK, I get it, we want to be surrounded by people who love and accept us; but, how about putting the shoe on the other foot for a change?”
David enjoyed a relationship with someone who understood what it meant to be a friend. Jonathan, the son of King Saul, loved David as his own soul. What does that mean? It means that Jonathan made David the focal point of the relationship. That Jonathan was as least as interested in being a good friend as he was in having a good friend. When it comes to my friendships I must ask myself this question: Am I “being” the kind of friend that I would like to have?
Proverbs 17:17 states: “A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.”
Let me take a moment and talk about how this applies to ME. I need to be a friend that demonstrates love to my friends at all times and through all circumstances. I need to be the kind of friend that never gives up or throws in the towel on my friendships. I need to demonstrate the same kind of love in my relationships that I have received from God; which, according to 1 Corinthians 13:8, "Never Fails!"
Friendship is a high calling. Did you hear me? Friendship is a high calling! How good of a friend are you?
Author’s Note: I’ve read that most of us go through life without making many “real” friends. Thus far my experience would say that it is true. It is hard to find people who are committed to being good friends. Fair weather friends are a dime a dozen and easy to find; but, true and faithful friends—they are a rare jewel. How many people consider me a good friend—someone that they can count on? That is the number that I want to see climbing. My prayer and hope is that the Lord will make me into the kind of man that people consider a true friend. RJD